Watching someone you love go through a hard time can be painful and upsetting, especially when you can feel what they are going through or intuitively know what they need. I’m not talking about coming from a place of judgement or your own experience. I’m talking about genuine intuitive knowing of and feeling into what they need to make the situation better.
For those of us who are empathetic, watching another unravel and witnessing their unwillingness to make changes is even more painful than going through the situation ourselves. We are not only feeling their pain, but we feel completely powerless to do anything to change it. We see the path that will lead them to happiness and peace, but cannot force them to walk it.
So many people that I know (myself included) have at some point been so deeply affected by another person’s pain that we have become shells of ourselves, doing everything in our power to help them to the point of our own depletion. One day, we look in the mirror and don’t recognize ourselves anymore. We are super thin or holding a lot of weight, not sleeping, not taking care of ourselves—health, hair, skin, etc.
While it is true that we need to give another the dignity of his own process, it is not true that we are completely powerless.
Here are 5 things that I’ve found help me maintain my peace and balance in the midst of someone else’s insanity, in no particular order:
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